It’s no secret that my life is hectic. I work full time, raise two sons, go to soccer and swim practice, manage a household, try to be a good wife, stay active in my community through my sorority and finally, decided to throw in a triathalon cause, you know, I had an extra hour of free time.
So many of my friends are always asking me how I do it. I was thinking about this the other day. My main answer would be “I have a great husband who supports me in all I do and helps me with everything”.
What I do is what all mothers do. Seriously. My life is no different than any other mom. I multitask and stuff gets done because it HAS to. I am blessed to have help. Mr. 1969 does housework and laundry. He helps get his boys ready for school in the morning. He helps to drop them off and will take them out to play when I need a mental break. He’s a supportive daddy.
So many women do what I do alone. So many women do what I do with a non-supportive partner. I feel blessed but I make no bones about having support physically and emotionally. He helps me be great.
The real wonder women are out there doing it alone. Motherhood is a thankless job. Sure you get a card once a year but what about all the other days? What about all of the sacrifices and hard work that is expected of you or you fall into the bad mommy club? Moms have to act like this job is the greatest all the time or we will get the side eye from everyone….other mothers, men, single women, old folks, etc. We get judged harder than anyone else and we are often our own toughest critics.
As I reflect on my crazy, hectic life…I realize, yes, I do alot. However, I don’t deserve any kudos for it. I just do what I do. Look around, there are better folks doing exactly what I do with so much less help. Those are the real unsung heroines. It may not be mother’s day yet, but kudos to all the real Wonder Women out there!
Whatever! I’m glad for Mr. 1969 and all the wonder women but you also deserve kudos! Hmph.
Great post! Touched me on a very personal level.
I say we all are Wonder women! It’s hard work with or without a partner. Hugs and accolades all around!
I never realized motherhood was difficult because I’ve always been blessed with my “village”. Michael is awesome, so I definitely feel you on having a supportive spouse (if I could just get him to put his dirty clothes in the hamper). But you do some “extras” that us ordinary mortal wouldn’t dare attempt. Don’t be trying to act like you regular! LOL Shoutouts definitely should be given to single motherhood!
Hey Now.. YOU ARE A WONDER WOMAN.. don’t forget it.. if you do take a look at that cup
but I have to say from doing it all alone to having help now.. it is crazy.. I’ve looked back a few times and wonder HOW I did it but when you are a mom you don’t think of how you just do.. the examples are set from our parents before us and we have the mentality to just make it happen.
Big ups to all the Wonder Women out there.. I wear my cape proudly
You get a card once a year? Gosh, what’s that like?
Obviously, I’m kidding and I agree that sometimes it can feel like a thankless job but then there are those moments … those moments that just make it all worthwhile. I love my life and my kids and even though I had to do it alone, I did it. Am still doing it. We all deserve a round of applause.
Motherhood…the hardest job I ever had, but it’s also the BEST job I ever had. And I had a husband, a retired Mother and Father 5 blocks away, a sister and a nephew there too, and by the daycare years a live in teenage step daughter.
I salute my sisters who have done this alone. Most of them deserve a cape and a crown.
Well, I appreciate you and all of the mothers out there that are doing it regardless of their situation.
It’s positively exhausting!