Parenting is the hardest job in the world. To know that you are responsible for shaping someone’s life is a huge responsibility. Children are indeed sponges and they soak up everything, good and bad. I find myself having to constantly remind myself that my behavior is a major influence on my boys.
Tali 1 usually brings home stellar grades and I couldn’t be more proud of him. However, prior to this year, he listened in class, studied a little at home, and continued to get A’s. This year has been a learning lesson for him in that he really has to study to get those A’s.
At his school, they take weekly tests every Friday. Last week, he did a great job on all of the tests but got a low grade on his Social Studies test. He was pretty upset about it. We talked about what he was doing when he studied for the test. He read the chapter twice, which has always been sufficient before. After looking at the material, I realized that I needed to teach him how to study. I felt terrible because I should have paid more attention to what he needed to study the first time around. Reading the chapter wasn’t going to cut it anymore.
This week, he had tests on explorers and inventors. We read the chapter and I showed him how to take notes. We made index cards for each of the key names and then wrote what they were known for on the back.
Ponce De Leon-Florida
Alexander Graham Bell-Telephone/Menlo Park, NJ
Jonas Salk-Polio Vaccine
We worked on it until he knew them all inside and out. We will find out on Wednesday how he did on the test but I felt so much better that he was adequately prepared. As we sat and talked about it, I realized that I needed to not assume he was studying and to continue to groom his study habits in order for him to succeed. As a kid, I was always organized and ready to study. I always had the notes people wanted to borrow. Highlighted notes, index cards…you know I am a geek.
I made the mistake of assuming he was doing the same thing and learned a valuable parenting lesson. You can’t assume anything with kids. You have to always check up on them. Even the ones that bring home A’s. That poor grade was as much my fault. Lesson learned!