Yesterday was Father’s Day. A day to celebrate the great job that men are doing in our families.
I checked into Facebook and saw a number of messages thanking the “Father’s who are actively participating in their child’s lives” or to the “single mothers who are stepping up when the Father’s aren’t”.
As many of you know, for most of my life, I was raised by a single mother before reconnecting with my father as an adult. She did a helluva job raising my brother and I. In addition to calling my dad, I always call her on Father’s Day to thank her for all she did for me.
As I read all of the backhanded comments and heard even more as the day passed, I was saddened for our community. Yes, we know so many Father’s that for lack of a better term “ain’t shyt”. But Father’s Day is a day to celebrate the men that ARE doing their jobs, handling their business and raising their children.
When Mother’s Day rolls around, there are never any disclaimers. We don’t say “Happy Mother’s Day to the mother’s that are actively taking care of their kids”. We all just celebrate our mothers PERIOD.
How did we get so broken and if people are so hurt and angry that they simply can’t wish anyone a Happy Father’s Day without throwing in some bitter comment, how does that affect our children?
I know there are a lot of men that make babies and run. I know many that are not paying support, not visiting, not coming to the soccer games and not helping with homework. Father’s Day is not about them.
It is about the Father’s that comb their daughter’s hair. It’s about the Dad’s that play catch for hours at the park. It’s for the Father’s that cheer or coach from the sidelines. The Dad’s that hug and tell you everything’s going to be okay.
I may not have always had my Dad around but I can put my personal feelings aside to simply say Happy Father’s Day without throwing in a side of bitterness.
I don’t know how we can fix our people and our broken spirits but we have to try for our children’s sakes. Let’s start by simply saying…
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY TO ALL OF THE GREAT DADS OUT THERE. THANK YOU AND WE APPRECIATE YOU!