I had a lively cafeteria conversation yesterday. The Mars vs Venus discussion was raging and the men were asking the women at the table the age old question “What do women want?”
I sat back and listened as each woman talked about the things they wanted….faithfulness, honesty, financial stability, sense of humor, etc. The men listened intently and when they finally got to me I gave them my honest answer.
“YOU CAN’T EVER PLEASE US BECAUSE WOMEN WANT IT ALL.”
Yup, that’s right…we want everything we can get. Women are selfish creatures. Ladies, some of you are shaking your heads right now and telling yourself that 1969 is crazy. I’m not crazy, I’m honest. You can sit there thinking you’re low maintenance but trust me, to a man….you’re not.
Everytime we ask for something and we actually get it? We change our minds and want something else. We are never satisfied. We’re moody. We rarely do a good job of communicating our needs. Why?
Because although we want everything…..wait for it……we don’t want to have to ask for it. We want someone who will just inherently know that and do it.
We want a man that will feed off of us, sense what we are going through, read our cues and handle things. It’s that simple. We don’t want to have to tell you what we need. We feel like if you were paying attention and really cared about us, you would make it your job to KNOW.
Is this realistic? NOPE. Essentially, we want a mind reader (with a six figure income, abs of steel, a house and a car who gets busy in the bedroom.)
That’s why so many women are single. We go into a relationship with unrealistic expectations of our mates.
A successful woman will soon learn that she needs to have more realistic expectations. Note, I am not saying settling….just having more realistic expectations. Men are not here to rescue us and save us from ourselves. Placing all of your happiness in someone else’s hands will ultimately lead to failure and unhappiness on your part.
You want something? Speak up. You’re angry? Let them know.
I also think women often seek perfection when they would be wise to take a long look in the mirror. What are YOU bringing to the table? Are you seeking a mate with qualities and posessions that you don’t even have? Are you essentially a food stamp trying to catch a tall glass of champagne?
Work on your fabulosity before you start complaining about what that man doesn’t have. Nothing wrong with wanting it all when you are bringing IT your damn self.
What say you good people? Weigh in.