What can I say about Caribbean women in response to my post about the men?

I love Caribbean women. I grew up with the greatest one ever….my Mother. In addition, I was blessed by being surrounded by my five aunts. From these six women alone, I can tell you all you need to know about Island women.

We are Do-ers. A caribbean woman is typically a hard worker. Whether she is in school, corporate america or at home, she tends to push herself extremely hard and will rarely ask for help. She has an “I can do it all” persona. I think this stems from growing up in an environment where your home and children were a direct reflection of your skills as a wife and mother. You will rarely see a Caribbean woman’s kids in the street looking dirty or disheveled.

Home means everything…..I can vividly remember being woken up on Saturday mornings at around 6am to help my mother clean the house. No wonder I hate doing housework now. LOL

When these women clean, they clean. Bleach, scrub brush, cleaning floors on hands and knees…..I mean CLEAN.

Most Caribbean women are very refined. Don’t forget the islands were primarily British….many of our nations gained independence in the 60’s and 70’s so that British style of living is still prevelant in many of our societies. Very proper.

We are also particular about our appearance. Yes, we love a BRIGHT color but we can carry it off.  She may be simple in her everyday appearance but let a group of Island women leave the house for a party……it’s on. It’s like a fashion show. When I go home to Trinidad, best believe, the ladies are wearing the latest everything.

These women are strict mothers. They have high expectations for their children, expect good manners and no back talk. They rule their house with an iron fist.

They are good wives. Very loyal and have a high regard for home but will cuss someone out in an instant. And you may have been cussed out before but NEVER like you would from an island woman. Lawdy. My mother knows words you have never heard before. When provoked these women will bring you down to your knees. They will talk about every single thing wrong with you and cut you to the core with one sentence.

There is another group of Caribbean women that we call SLACK. These are the ones that wear the pum pum shorts and flirt openly with husbands. There’s nothing like one of these SLACK women getting beat up by somebody’s wife or girlfriend. Especially in a club. LMAO.

Overall, my most personal observation is that women like my mom tend to have a hard time asking for help or showing love outwardly. I know my mom loves me to pieces but should I call her right now and say “Mom, I’m sad today.”…..

Her instant Caribbean response would be “Wha yuh sad for? Hmpmh…..I doh have nuh time to be sad. I so busy. I wish I could be sad. Hmpmh *insert teeth sucking*”

Two days later, I would probably get a card from her in the mail.

See how it works? They just CANNOT show emotions. I think that sometimes in their quest to raise strong kids, run the house and be a good wife….they forget that showing emotion does not make one weak.

This is the main struggle I face with my relationship with my mother. Evil and berating first….love second.

Feel free to pipe in with your thoughts…..