I called a friend of mine yesterday just to chat. She had a sadness in her voice and some not so good news. A really good friend of hers had passed away that morning. In addition to that, her relationship had recently ended after finding out some shocking news.
I just knew that my friend was hurting. It’s been a while since I have been in the dating game but I remember that pain all too well. It’s the universal pain we have all felt after putting your all into a relationship and thinking the person felt the same way only to find out they were deceitful.
The kind of pain where you could barely get out of bed in the morning. You shut yourself off from the world and just cry.
I was so upset after hearing my friend’s story. There is nothing like having your heart betrayed to make you question yourself. Are you smart enough? Pretty enough? Good in bed? Attractive?
In reality, those types of breakups are about the other person. Their selfishness, their insecurities. Sometimes when someone chooses someone else, we instinctively feel as if we are failures instead of recognizing that we dodged a bullet.
I am going to pray for my friend. My beautiful, intelligent, fabulous friend. I hope she knows that she is worth more than he could ever afford. Life starts NOW.