I saw Se.x in the C.ity this weekend with two new girlfriends. We had a blast having the night out, indulging in sushi and Cosmos.
Watching the movie brought me back to my own single days in New York.
It may be hard for some of you to believe but 1969 was quite the hottie back in her heyday. In addition, my crew consisted of New York’s finest young and fabulous Divas. We were truly a force to be reckoned with everywhere we went.
We had the entrepreneur, the young attorney, the fashionista, the one with a steady boyfriend, the party girl, the “fiend” and the sensible one. We had every Se.x in the City character right in our own entourage.
The city was the greatest place to be young and single. Our everyday cares were always 1) What to wear? 2) Where are we going? and 3) Who’s paying for our fun?
When you are young, attractive and overflowing with confidence….the world is truly at your disposal. Some of us dated athletes, future directors and R&B singers. We got gifts, ate in the finest restuarants and enjoyed some of the perks of being eye candy.
However, as we got older….the party lifestyle lost it’s shine. For most of us, we realized that we wanted more out of life. We started to look at how we were getting treated by these men and began to realize we couldn’t be in relationships where the men loved themselves more than they did us. We grew up. We got smarter. We wanted more and set out to find it.
I am happy to say that the majority of us have moved on from the fast city lifestyle.
Some are married, many have fulfilled their dreams of owning a home, starting a family or achieving career success. The multiple degrees, peer recognition and accolades have followed my friends as they shifted focus and took their lives in different directions. We still have one or two who are lost out there waiting for the right baller to come along and take them shopping. Overall though we did okay.
So as I sat watching the movie….I thought about my girlfriends and all that we had been through together. The way we stuck together from our teens through today, as we sit on the verge of turning 40. We have been through so much…..from cheating, crying, laughter to enjoying so many blessings.
For me, the movie is a celebration of life and friendship. I don’t know about you but for me, life is so much more enjoyable when you have people who share the journey.

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June 3, 2008 at 12:47 pm
MissB
I know you and your friends were UBER fly!!! You still are!!!
I loved the movie…I didn’t see it with my girlfriends, but I definitely want to go with them. The movie made me miss them sooooo much. There is a little bit of the SATC characters in each one of us. Awwww I miss them!!!
Great post!!
June 3, 2008 at 1:35 pm
BK
Fab Post.. ^5 on that one!!!
You are RIGHT having friends to ride the journey with you are the best!
June 3, 2008 at 1:43 pm
erica b.
Great post! I bet you and your girls were nothing nice!
June 3, 2008 at 1:50 pm
robyn
Well said! Having friends that are die hard ride-or-die friends make all the difference in the world. It is nice that you are looking back and enjoying the past AND the present. Great post!
June 3, 2008 at 1:53 pm
checkmymelonie
I shall sit at your feet, guru. Teach me! The pupil is ready.
June 3, 2008 at 2:31 pm
LH
Um … are any members of your former crew single, still?
Having friends/people in your life who get you is tight. I kinda miss those days.
June 3, 2008 at 3:33 pm
1969
LH….the two fab attorneys are indeed still fab and still single.
June 3, 2008 at 4:25 pm
Leslie C.
So what did you end up wearing?
June 3, 2008 at 5:24 pm
miss ahmad
i feel like the grinch who stole christmas for not having any interest in that movie but i guess if i want to actually be able to talk to any of my girlfriends, i should go watch it…
June 3, 2008 at 6:05 pm
KaNisa
Co-sign Miss Ahmad! lol…
June 3, 2008 at 6:06 pm
jameil
that movie bade me miss my friends, too! hard to believe for who??? girl please!
June 3, 2008 at 6:42 pm
alwaysfunkyfresh
are they all “techies”!??!?!
June 3, 2008 at 7:05 pm
CreoleInDC
I STRAIGHT feel you on this one cept the friend was my sister. LOL! Man…we had a good time but it’s all good because life evolves into even BETTER times and I’m cool with that too. Oh…and you STILL a hottie. Hell…Imma be one till I’m done. LOL!
June 3, 2008 at 7:10 pm
Wise
OK so which SATC girl are you…then and now?
June 3, 2008 at 7:16 pm
1969
Fresh…three went to Tech with me.
June 3, 2008 at 7:18 pm
1969
Wise….where the hell have you been? LOL
I used to be Carrie and now I am turning into Charlotte cause I am pretty happy and content.
June 4, 2008 at 5:34 pm
Dee
Oh, I know ya’ll were too cute. (Still are). I remember times like that, too. Now, I love the series and movie b/c like you said, it’s about girlfriends. It means even more to me now that I have renewed some friendships that were in the background for a few years.
June 4, 2008 at 8:20 pm
Wise
Oh I’ve been everywhere and nowhere at once (school).
Charlotte sans the Poughkeepsie I hope.