Comments on: Monday’s HOT TOPIC

By: crimsonpurl

crimsonpurl — Wed, 21 May 2008 12:03:44 +0000

I understand what the single mom’s are saying, but I think that is unfair!
Now your are completing ignoring men all together and isn’t that just escalating the problem unconsciously?!?
I agree with Funky Fresh – Hell give it to your single mama!

By: Los Angelista

Los Angelista — Wed, 21 May 2008 07:11:07 +0000

That’s ridiculous! Talk about low expectations for them and their families. When I taught school, I told the kids to make one for their father or whoever was their father figure. As long as they made a card for an important man in their lives, it was good.

By: sherri

sherri — Tue, 20 May 2008 01:38:23 +0000

seems like a sad commentary on our society and what we are willing to accept as “ok” behavior.

By: Candice

Candice — Tue, 20 May 2008 01:27:33 +0000

I don’t agree with the policy of not celebrating father’s day. I think the Dads should be honored and celebrated just like the moms. I grew up without a father, I chose to celebrate my mom on Father’s day.

By: Amadeo

Amadeo — Tue, 20 May 2008 01:11:05 +0000

So what will those kids think about fathers now? They must not be important cause we don’t even celebrate. I’m sure it hurts them less then the kids who’s mother isn’t around…mothers day is EVERYWHERE. I see this as another example that men just aren’t as important in relation to children. Damn…not even the big piece of chicken.

By: J. Dakar

J. Dakar — Mon, 19 May 2008 22:03:18 +0000

Wow…just, wow.
Like onefromphilly said, why should the good dads be punished?
If the kids don’t have dads or don’t even want to make a card, have them do something else. Simple as that.

By: SunnyJ

SunnyJ — Mon, 19 May 2008 20:57:19 +0000

I don’t think it’s fair. There are many great fathers who may not live in the home and they shouldn’t be ignored because of the ones who don’t do right by their children.

By: onefromphilly

onefromphilly — Mon, 19 May 2008 19:39:51 +0000

The many (good dads) should not be punished for the few (bad dads).

I think that’s unfair and presumptive. It’s an asumption that even if the mothers are single that the dad’s are either triflin, uninvolved or absent. That’s presumptive and wrong!

By: y

Mon, 19 May 2008 19:25:30 +0000

It makes me extremely sad that we even have this dilemma first of all. I don’t think it’s fair because its like the kids who do have fathers in their lives can’t celebrate it. Or its like we should all just ignore that these kids don’t have father figures and pretend like mother’s day is only important. To me, that makes the situation even more painful for the child. You think that child is that much happier because they don’t have to go through the motions of making a father’s day card? What about the child who may not have their mother in their life or orphans or children in foster care? This is a situation where it truly takes a village to raise a child. If I were a single mother, it would not upset me. People have fathers, some have terrible, deadbeat ones and some have good ones, but fatherhood can be wonderful but there’s not need to pretend it doesn’t exist. If I were the director of day care where this was an issue, I would not want to eliminate that activity. It can be altered for all types of families and father figures out there. And for the kids that didn’t have any type of father figure I’d recruit some male volunteers to spend a little time at my school. I know this may sound idealist and naive but a school is a part of a community so the community should address its needs.

By: Roycee

Roycee — Mon, 19 May 2008 19:06:46 +0000

I think in instances like this you encourage children to celebrate the men in their lives who have the most impact on them. It doesnt have to be a father in order for the person to exhibit father like qualities and values. The point is celebrating fatherhood and that shouldnt be set aside because some children’s fathers are absent. That sends the wrong message to children and gives the impression that fatherhood is not valued or expected. We need to teach them that just because yours isnt there doesnt mean we should forget that fathers are important. Especially for little boys. We want them to know that being a good father to a child is what they should all strive to be and because of that we want to honor the men in their lives who they look to for help, encouragement, and guidance.

I think it is wrong to not honor fathers in the same way we do mothers, penalizing the fathers who are there because of the ones who are is also hurting the children. I think we need to reorient the message and deal with the real issues. Ignoring the problem will not make it disappear.