Comments on: Flying by the seat of my pants http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/ Armed with an Opinion and Not Afraid To Use It Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:33:38 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: NinaMM http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7209 NinaMM Fri, 16 May 2008 20:17:44 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7209 Lady at the salon yesterday was telling me about how she embarrassed her 15 year old ROYALLY by coming up to his Spanish class -- unexpected -- since his teacher had called her "on her job" 3 times about him cutting up. I was like, "Girl...did you hit him?" She was like, "No...but I eyeballed him the WHOLE period." :lol: My momma had this big azz white purse, meant for nothing but hittin' her children. I 'clare I never saw that lady carry that purse nowhere but up to school to whup our azz. You'd walk into the principal's office and BALAMALAM...she'd full-face you with that big azz white purse. It was pleather too. You ever been hit in the face with a big ole pleather purse before? :lol: At any rate...Tali's gon' 'preciate you, mami. You told him right. And spared him the big white purse. ;) Lady at the salon yesterday was telling me about how she embarrassed her 15 year old ROYALLY by coming up to his Spanish class — unexpected — since his teacher had called her “on her job” 3 times about him cutting up. I was like, “Girl…did you hit him?” She was like, “No…but I eyeballed him the WHOLE period.” :lol:

My momma had this big azz white purse, meant for nothing but hittin’ her children. I ‘clare I never saw that lady carry that purse nowhere but up to school to whup our azz. You’d walk into the principal’s office and BALAMALAM…she’d full-face you with that big azz white purse. It was pleather too. You ever been hit in the face with a big ole pleather purse before? :lol:

At any rate…Tali’s gon’ ‘preciate you, mami. You told him right. And spared him the big white purse. ;)

]]> By: After Hours http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7203 After Hours Fri, 16 May 2008 17:22:01 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7203 Thank you for the compliment Miss Nineteen69! Currently, I do not have a blog, although, I have thought about creating one. The difficult part is keeping it updated (as with any website). Full Disclosure: I found your blog by way of Mr. Slish; and his blog by way of Single Black Male; and his from The Comeback Girl. -After Hours Thank you for the compliment Miss Nineteen69! Currently, I do not have a blog, although, I have thought about creating one. The difficult part is keeping it updated (as with any website).

Full Disclosure: I found your blog by way of Mr. Slish; and his blog by way of Single Black Male; and his from The Comeback Girl.

-After Hours

]]> By: Nineteen69 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7193 Nineteen69 Fri, 16 May 2008 00:15:56 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7193 After Hours.....why did it take you so long to leave a comment when you have such insight to offer on parenting? Do you have a blog? You need to....cause I would read it! After Hours…..why did it take you so long to leave a comment when you have such insight to offer on parenting? Do you have a blog? You need to….cause I would read it!

]]> By: miss ahmad http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7192 miss ahmad Thu, 15 May 2008 21:01:20 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7192 i was at my mother's school yesterday sitting with a little boy who was getting suspended for pushing a girl and i hope his mother takes the time to explain the rules to him the way you did your son. you're a hell of a mom.. but you already know. i was at my mother’s school yesterday sitting with a little boy who was getting suspended for pushing a girl and i hope his mother takes the time to explain the rules to him the way you did your son.

you’re a hell of a mom.. but you already know.

]]> By: After Hours http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7191 After Hours Thu, 15 May 2008 18:25:03 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7191 I agree with the previous comments- There is no manual on child rearing. Even if one existed, I don't know if I would use it. Every child is unique in their own way. Child rearing is not one size fits all! As a married father of a 10 year old, I pray that my wife and I are raising our son to be a) a good citizen; b) treat others as you would like to be treated; c) stand up for himself without getting caught up in the madness within this world of ours. On a deeper note, I have already had that "talk" with my son regarding driving and the police. Yes, he will not be licensed to drive for several years, but he needs to know how to conduct himself should he be pulled over- Keep your hands on the wheel, speak when spoken to (in other words, don't get Al Sharpton 1am in the morning), no suspicious movements, etc. It's ironic, but you will not find this information in a manual (tangible). This information is from the manual that has not been written (intangible). Not to be racial, but I seriously doubt if my son's Caucasian classmates will receive a similar talk from their fathers. Different manuals for different circumstances. -After Hours I agree with the previous comments- There is no manual on child rearing. Even if one existed, I don’t know if I would use it. Every child is unique in their own way. Child rearing is not one size fits all!

As a married father of a 10 year old, I pray that my wife and I are raising our son to be a) a good citizen; b) treat others as you would like to be treated; c) stand up for himself without getting caught up in the madness within this world of ours.

On a deeper note, I have already had that “talk” with my son regarding driving and the police. Yes, he will not be licensed to drive for several years, but he needs to know how to conduct himself should he be pulled over- Keep your hands on the wheel, speak when spoken to (in other words, don’t get Al Sharpton 1am in the morning), no suspicious movements, etc. It’s ironic, but you will not find this information in a manual (tangible). This information is from the manual that has not been written (intangible). Not to be racial, but I seriously doubt if my son’s Caucasian classmates will receive a similar talk from their fathers. Different manuals for different circumstances.

-After Hours

]]> By: Nerd Girl http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7190 Nerd Girl Thu, 15 May 2008 17:09:52 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7190 I think you handled the situation well. One of my biggest concerns raising Lovegirl is whether or not I am properly equipping her for life. Food, shelter, clothes - check. The nuances - let her cry, stop crying, defend yourself, turn the other cheek, be yourself, conform - those are the issues I have concerns about/problems with. I think you handled the situation well. One of my biggest concerns raising Lovegirl is whether or not I am properly equipping her for life. Food, shelter, clothes – check. The nuances – let her cry, stop crying, defend yourself, turn the other cheek, be yourself, conform – those are the issues I have concerns about/problems with.

]]> By: Dee http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7186 Dee Thu, 15 May 2008 13:57:54 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7186 Having boys, especially little brown boys, is hard from the beginning. You worry about them, you have to explain to them why more (or less) is expected from them than their friends. You want to protect them, but still raise a strong man, and on, and on. You are doing an excellent job, I'm sure. Having boys, especially little brown boys, is hard from the beginning. You worry about them, you have to explain to them why more (or less) is expected from them than their friends. You want to protect them, but still raise a strong man, and on, and on. You are doing an excellent job, I’m sure.

]]> By: checkmymelonie http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7185 checkmymelonie Thu, 15 May 2008 13:33:37 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7185 Kudos because it can be difficult raising any child in this atmosphere! I love the fact that you emphasized respect for a person...all children need to understand that! Kudos because it can be difficult raising any child in this atmosphere! I love the fact that you emphasized respect for a person…all children need to understand that!

]]> By: That Girl Tam http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7184 That Girl Tam Thu, 15 May 2008 02:59:21 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7184 You did a FANTASTIC job explaining "the rules" of engagement. Luckily, I've never had to have that conversation with ML...although I'm SURE I'll be having that conversation with LL because he wants to hit EVERYONE (which sometimes includes his daddy - yes, the boy is crazy in all of his 3 short years with us). I have been very fortunate that his Karate school teaches their students a level of discipline that I can only be jealous of. The teachers there have a level of calm that evokes respect IMMEDIATELY. Plus...lucky for us, ML has never really been the confrontational type...he wants everyone to get along...even if it leaves him in the dust on the sidelines. He's selfless like that... Of course, we'll need to work on that hustla thing he's got going...you DO remember that paper boat he sold for $10...and how he was punkin some kid outta his snacks at school...can you come over to MY house and help out?? HAHAHA!! You did a FANTASTIC job explaining “the rules” of engagement. Luckily, I’ve never had to have that conversation with ML…although I’m SURE I’ll be having that conversation with LL because he wants to hit EVERYONE (which sometimes includes his daddy – yes, the boy is crazy in all of his 3 short years with us).

I have been very fortunate that his Karate school teaches their students a level of discipline that I can only be jealous of. The teachers there have a level of calm that evokes respect IMMEDIATELY. Plus…lucky for us, ML has never really been the confrontational type…he wants everyone to get along…even if it leaves him in the dust on the sidelines. He’s selfless like that…

Of course, we’ll need to work on that hustla thing he’s got going…you DO remember that paper boat he sold for $10…and how he was punkin some kid outta his snacks at school…can you come over to MY house and help out?? HAHAHA!!

]]> By: Nineteen69 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/2008/05/14/flying-by-the-seat-of-my-pants/#comment-7183 Nineteen69 Thu, 15 May 2008 00:29:35 +0000 http://nineteen69.wordpress.com/?p=652#comment-7183 Los Angelista....I am totally against him hitting girls or picking on anyone. I grew up in Brooklyn so I have that "I'm not raising a punk" mentality myself. Now his first course of action at this age should be to tell his teacher that someone is picking on him or hitting him. However as he gets older, if someone deliberately hits him with malice? Then I would support him if he fought back. Aslong as he didn't strike them with anger first. However, fighting should be a last resort. Los Angelista….I am totally against him hitting girls or picking on anyone.

I grew up in Brooklyn so I have that “I’m not raising a punk” mentality myself.

Now his first course of action at this age should be to tell his teacher that someone is picking on him or hitting him.

However as he gets older, if someone deliberately hits him with malice? Then I would support him if he fought back. Aslong as he didn’t strike them with anger first. However, fighting should be a last resort.

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