This past weekend, Mr. 1969’s nieces were in Philly hanging out with their friends. They have been doing this recently almost every other weekend.
Background, his nieces are 20 and 23. They live in Harrisburg, Pa. Their family is religious and they both live at home with Mom and Dad. Recently, the older one started dating a gentleman in Philly. The younger one recently had a baby. Their parents (Mr. 1969’s brother and wife) are wonderful people. They have very respectful daughters and are very sweet.
Well, the ladies typical game plan is to call us a few days before arrival and ask if they can spend the night on Saturday. We always say yes.
Now what ends up happening is they have friends that show up, they go out and usually come in around 1am. They wake up on Sunday, I feed them breakfast and they go to church. After church, they come back and pack up and head back home.
This weekend, Mr. 1969 was working the door at his Fraternity function. I was home sleeping with my boys. At 2:30am, my phone rings and it’s the girls telling me they are outside. I walk downstairs, let them in. They tell me they told Mr. 1969 that they were coming two days ago. Hmph. No one told me.
The next day, I wake up at 6am with Tali 2. (Yes, he gets up at 6am every day). I make breakfast for everyone in the house. The girls wake up, get dressed and head to church with their friends. I leave my house to go walking and decide to walk all along West River and Kelly Drive. The entire walk is about 11 miles.
I get back in and the girls are still not back. Mr. 1969 comes home, we make dinner, do homework with Tali 1, etc…..
At 9pm, their Dad calls Mr. 1969. After he hangs up, he tells me that the girls told their Dad they would be home at 5pm. Hmpmh.
Why did those girls roll up in our house at midnight? My husband let them have it. The older one was saying something about she’s grown and her Dad was just tripping.
Let me leave it up to you readers……would you allow them back?
I’ll give you my take later this afternoon.
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April 28, 2008 at 2:35 pm
Fergie
An 11 mile walk, WOW, WOW!!!
Okay as for the girls I would probably allow them back but with some clear guidelines. Not that you are trying to get in their business but they are crashing at your house and it shouldn’t be too much to ask to be respectful. Now if it continues – they would have to find another place to crash. Sounds like they know you guys are cool and they figure you all don’t mind. Plus it sounds like their parents feel good about them being at your house so they don’t get to many questions at the home front. They better tread lightly before they mess up a good thing.
11 miles (for leisure) WOW!!!
April 28, 2008 at 2:40 pm
purpology
Hardheaded, give em an inch they take a mile, that’s highly irresponsible of both of the daughters, regardless of if they’re “grown” or not, personally I most likely wouldn’t let them back until I felt that they could be more responsible or at least communicative about their plans changing and what time they should be expected to arrive at your house.
April 28, 2008 at 2:40 pm
Pro
They sound like they are gaming. I saw this from the onset. I don’t doubt their level of respectability, but I do question their motives. They are using your house as the median for their other Philly jaunts. IMHO. We grown folk recognize these things. Yes we do. And if the one sister claims their “grownness” then they need to decide to: 1) relocate to the Philly area; 2) get a place together; and 3) carry on with their comings and goings all times of the day and night at their leisure.
Momma ’69’s house will not be the ‘cover’ spot.
April 28, 2008 at 2:43 pm
Pro
As far as allowing this to continue, my thoughts are just that. A stern talking to about the aforementioned comment. I can’t believe they would even think y’all all unaware of young folk gaming? Like (we) just fell off the damn turnip truck? That old school statement is reason enough young folk think we are ‘green.’ LMAO
April 28, 2008 at 3:26 pm
NinaMM
I probably would let them come back, but not after giving them very strict parameters — you’re not in by 1 am, you don’t come back HERE. Stay where you are.
I remember when I was 20 and 23; I was a wild thang.
I probably would have tried my young, cool uncle and his wife at least ONCE. 
Give ‘em a 1969 pass THIS ONE TIME. It’s up to them to screw it up or not.
April 28, 2008 at 3:56 pm
BK
GROWN? Hmph.. if they are so grown.. then they need to get hotel rooms so they can come and go as they please and not disrupt your home.. WTfudge That sounds like they told their dad they would be with you guys when they KNEW they wouldn’t be.. hmph.. So who is watching the baby while she is playing?
I’m saying Mr. 1969 let them have it.. Did YOU give them the speech? LOL
*sidebar* big ups to you on that 11 mile walk!!! I’m proud of you sixty!
April 28, 2008 at 4:12 pm
Melonie
You walked all the way from Wynnefield to Kelly Drive?! Go girl!!
To me, it’s not a grown thing…it’s a respect thing. Obviously you’re not that grown if you have to inform your parents about your whereabouts. I cannot preach safety ENOUGH.
We know how Philly gets down, Sixty!
April 28, 2008 at 4:17 pm
onefromphilly
This is what I term “TYRING YOU”. So now that they’ve “tried” both of you. That’s the only one they get. I fully expect yougins to show their back-side at least one time. So my speech would go like this…
“I’m the Queen Bee up in this Hive. My house, my rules. If you can’t respect them then I’ll just have to understand that you won’t be staying with us anymore when you come to Philly. I’ll be sad but I’ll get over it. So here we go…Be here when you say you will, come back at our agreed upon time, leave when you say you’re leaving. Call and alert us if anything causes this arrangement to change. Got it?! Good! Peace,(two fingers)….. see you next time you come.”
I’ve had lot’s of practice with this one! LOL
April 28, 2008 at 5:26 pm
SIP
HELL.NO.
April 28, 2008 at 5:26 pm
nexgrl
I wouldn’t have it. Since they know where you work, why haven’t they asked for a discounted room?
April 28, 2008 at 5:31 pm
brran1
I see your OSAG is in full swing Sixty
As a 21 year old, being young has nothing to do with it. It’s an issue of respect. If I’m out of town and staying at a relatives place WITHOUT CHARGE then I’ll have to abide by their rules.
I say let ‘em stay Sixty. They know what the deal is and everyone deserves a second chance.
April 28, 2008 at 6:00 pm
nineteen69
brran1…I am working it out over here
April 28, 2008 at 6:08 pm
Amadeo
They can stay…long as they agree ya’ll ain’t the place to come and act a fool. they may be in their 20’s but if they won’t do it at home then….
Why do people always act like they are the only ones that were ever young and wild? I used to rip my clients for sneaking of to blaze they would deny and I was always like, “Yo, I know the creep move, I’ve done it and peeped it so I could roll along”.
April 28, 2008 at 7:24 pm
erica b.
I would, but I would give them the “respect my house” lecture.
April 28, 2008 at 11:20 pm
Pserendipity
I would let them stay, but ONLY after they got the “oh no you dient loud talk with the side eye.” I can’t believe one of em had the nerve to get jiggy with Mr. 1969 talking about how grown she is. Grown folk can rent hotel rooms….
Eleven miles!? Sheesh.
April 29, 2008 at 1:19 am
Organized Noise
11 miles . . . that’s about how far I walked around that damn park last time I was in Philly looking for you.
As far as the girls, I’m with BK. They abused your hospitality. They only get one shot to do that. I’m sure you of all people can recommend a few good hotels for them in the greater Philadelphia area.
April 29, 2008 at 7:51 am
That Girl Tam
After the weekend I just had with BL’s bullshit, I can’t even comment because my hormonal ass would be tryin to kill someone.
I agree that they abused your hospitality and used the fact that they were coming to YOUR house to get away with some shit they can’t do at home.
If they’re so grown, they don’t need to EVER treat your home like a cheap ass Motel 6.
::rollin my eyes::
Other people’s kids are really gettin on my nerves…lol