I was in a major bind yesterday. You know when you need a huge favor and you are at a total loss for finding someone to help you out?
Just when I resigned myself to the fact that I was going to have to do everything by myself….a friend called me out of the clear blue and offered to help me. Then this morning, I got another offer of help.
I really was at the end of my rope and somehow, it all fell into place. Yes, I know I am Blessed beyond belief and so grateful for both of my friends for helping me.
Some days, even I…Superwoman, feel like I am buried under so many things with no one to turn to. I hate asking for help. I hate bugging people. However, you have to ask to receive.
Yesterday, I encouraged young people to seek help when they need it. I struggled with doing just that my whole life. When you are the oldest child, in a home where your parents are divorcing….you don’t want to add to the stress.
I learned to internalize all of my personal issues. I never talked to anyone about them. I just dealt with it or kept it inside.
It took me many years to understand that I was just a kid. I needed direction. I should have talked to someone and forced them to deal with me. Because I was quiet, they always assumed that everything was okay. People are only human. They don’t read minds.
I still struggle with this issue. I am not a complainer and I view needing help sometimes as a sign of weakness. I know I shouldn’t but I do. I feel like I should be able to do everything. Can you say perfectionist? LOL
I am working on it everyday. I hope to raise children that will always be open about their issues and talk to Mr. 1969 and I if they need an opinion or face a challenge.
You could say I plan to grow up with my kids.
Have a great weekend.
Awh Sixty I feel you ma!!! My friend told me to umm STOP doing everything and let someone else do it.. I don’t know how.. We are always grateful for our “angels in disguise” for helping without us knowing how to ask!!!
Hugs chica.. it’s a rare snow day for me and I’m actually working from home.. enjoy and growing up with the kids is fun!
You home today too…I saw the snow told my job PEACE!!!! with the finger..lol
I am chilling on the couch with a nice mug of coffee Slishy….and I just had an omlette with spinach, tomatoes, mushrooms and cheese….MMMmmmm.
I HATE ASKING FOR HELP!!! I struggle to accept help too. Those are two of my biggest challenges…let us pray!
Why am I at work today??? I prayed for snow and got rain and ice instead…duty seems to constantly call dayumit!!!
Enjoy the day off Big Sis!
Roycee…we will pray together man.
We got about four inches of snow over here. Tali 1′s school is open…lil Tali’s school is closed. I am about to bake some cupcakes up in here.
I am so the same way!!! I have ALWAYS hated asking for help. This last year, when I REALLY needed it, I would act like I didn’t and be stressing myself out because I refused to ask for it. I eventually did, but it was sooo hard.
I’m so jealous!! I wish I had a day off!!! Enjoy your day!!
i learned how to ask for help when i realized that i’d been making my life harder than it really had to be because of my hard head! now i find that when i reach out for help, it’s usually there, often before I ask.
A woman like yourself, a mother, someone buying little raggedy boys hot chocolate on cold days, has certainly put allot of good out there in the world and most certainly deserves it back…tenfold as they say in the good book.
We don’t get no snow days in California, and people frown upon staying home because it’s raining for some reason!
Um, you could HIRE me to do the asking for you. Ha. I don’t have pride issues, and that is truly what it boils down to. When I heard about that scripsha, “We have not because we ask not,” I was all over that mug cosigning and erythang. I just haven’t run into the right people for what I’m currently asking for. But please don’t confuse my asking with handout. I. Work. My. Ass. Off. when given any opportunity. Emaculate home, well groomed/kept kids, cook like a freaking gourmet, volunteer service, etc.; not tooting my horn at all though (I know some SAHM who houses look like hell all dayum day). But back to that you could hire me thing. Real talk. I do have a dream career in mind, but alas I feel like I have to do as you, and keep it to myself because there are others to think about who also depend on me. Ion know 1969/Big Sis. I feel lost and in desperate need of help. Lawd, give me a sign (a la DMX). . . Stay warm with them sox on your feet!
Atleast you get a snow day to recharge your batteries.
I think kids make you recognize things in yourself that would otherwise take a while. Funny though, I think people mistake asking for help as a sign of weakness. We’re going through a situation now with someone who needs the help but has yet to ask.
Use the day to recharge. Reset. (I’m at home too!)
By the way did you say cupcakes?!?!?!
Pro girl…call me sometime…you know I don’t mind shield leaning and I promise to listen to your dream.
Miss A…I though it never rains in California???
Erica B….there is no recharging going on. Boh Talis are home and my boss is already stressing me out.
Fresh—cupcakes!! And they are good….
I agree with what you said 1969. Even at certain times when I need help, I will refuse it because I don’t want it to be portrayed as a sign of weakness.
May I have one of those cupcakes?
awwww. i’m glad you got some help!
The rope is always easier to pull with two on the line. Remember that!
PC^ you are so wise!
I hear you. I don’t want to seem weak and I don’t want to be a burden to others either.
But sometimes it just gets to that point where you know you gotta ask or lose your mind.
And gosh, y’all are really having a winter, aren’t you?
I don’t ask for help much. But I’m learning.
Glad you got that help.