I tend to veer on the side of optimism. The glass is half-full for me. Life is too short to always look at things negatively. When faced with a problem, I take the “put your big girl panties on and deal with it” approach.
I also have an allergy. A severe allergic reaction to DRAMA. Don’t get it twisted, I can roll with the best of them if it comes down to getting dirty but I prefer not to bring unneccessary stress into my life if I don’t have to. Why would I embrace someone else’s issues when I have my own?
I think being in the Hotel Biz has given me the innate ability to deal with sticky situations. I am usually calm in the face of storms. The voice of reason. The go to person when you have a problem.
Sometimes, people mistake this calmness for weakness. Some people react to situations with VOLUME. I observe behavior. I understand people. I think. Then I strike.
I always tell you….I am the nature of my horoscope. Cancer, the Crab. I let everything bounce off the shell while I lay in the cut and observe the situation. If it’s not for me….I go back in the sand and mind my own business. If I need to attack….I strike fast and cut to the quick.
I think I know that I have an evil streak and when I say something or react a certain way….I will go for the jugular and really HURT someone. So I try to be careful with that power.
I use the force sparingly. That way, when I use it…..it’s highly effective.
And yes, I said evil. 1969 is not all sunshine and rainbows. I have a positive outlook on life but I am a product of my upbringing.I have that Caribbean blood mixed with the Brooklyn Hustler mentality. I can revert to survival mode with the quickness.
Many a fool has slept on me and assumed what my reaction would be…..they learned. LOL
As Mr. 1969 would say…..I am the perfect mix of class and hood. A Chanel suit wearing broad packing heat and a switchblade. LMAO!
Who are you?
Great post! Let’s see… who am I? Well, I’m a Virgo. Once I decide that we are friends, I am loyal to the end… the ultimate ride or die chick! But, if I am crossed, forgiveness is difficult for me. Michael calls me the Queen of not letting shyt go. I tend to come across as cold or emotionally detached because I abhor whiners and I don’t give “woe is me” types the time of day. I agree with you, put on your big panties and deal with it.
I am Fergie. I have a servants heart and enjoy assisting others in anyway that I a can. I am a loyal and faithful friend. The friends I make I keep. I let most things roll off my back, and am blessed with what I think is a gift of pulling myself up by my boot straps. I am a fierce protector of my family and when crossed I do hold grudges. I am a wonderfully, fearlessly made WORK IN PROGRESS!!!
oh my. virgo over here, too! erica b’s description was very apt for me, too so cheers! dramatic types? so not doing it. be gone. i have absolutely excused people from my life for refusing to take ownership for their flaws and celebrate their blessings. if you insist on hating life, allow me to let you do that ALONE.
So far…as far as I can tell….you’re all being honest
Love it!
I’m Fresh. A Leo but not that type thats over the top cocky. I’m confident. I’m laid back because I realize that STRESS kills. I’m quiet and although people take that as a sign of weakness, what they fail to realize is even though my lips aren’t moving, my brain is. I’m analytical, sometimes too much but its how my intuition knows whats right and whats wrong. I look at a person with a microscope before I let them in my circle but once they’re in, it’s a lifetime membership unless they do me wrong. Then the lion roars.
Leo’s……no comment.
I’m ARIES…the firey Ram. Cerebral, and fiercely loyal.
I’ve been given the name Educated Hoodlum. I think it fits……. LOL
Since I have kids I’ve worked hard on supressing the hoodlum side. Especially since they know I’ll fight, they sometimes sic me on people. It took me a few years to realize that little set up. And the older I get the less prone to fighting I become… BUT, if necessary I will throw down in nano second. I think my Mom sums me up perfectly.
She told me that I could be somebody’s best friend or their worse enemy. I really would rather be the best friend.
I am Gemini. Intelligent, open-minded and articulate. Some say two faced, but the truth is I can see both sides of nearly every argument. I can cut to the quick, so I try to listen more now, which is hard because I love to talk and have a lot to say. I am fairly open with new people I like making new friends, but few become part of my inner circle.
I am a Virgo. To know me is to love me. To some I am considered standoffish, but it’s just that it takes me a sec to warm up to people. I celebrate and support my friends, and try to offer encouragement wherever I can. But I will give an honest opinion if asked.
Little things annoy me, but it takes a lot to make me angry. I am fairly patient, but once I’m at the blow up point, that’s it. If I’ve been crossed or find a person dragging me down, I can totally eliminate them from my life and never look back. I don’t have time for drama either and just like Erica B, I can be cold toward the woe is me types. I, too, subscribe to the Big Girl Panties logic.
Why are you all so fascinating? Hmmmm
I am a GEMINI.. to know me is to love me.. it takes a while before I let you in but when u become one of my crew I GOT YOU FOR LIFE.. I’m that loyal, ride or die chick that will have your back even when you are wrong cause I’m loyal like that.. when I love I love hard..its the only way to do it..I stay away from drama and the likes because it gives me hives.. I am definitely a subscriber of the Big Girl Panties logic.. most take my kindness for weakness BUT the moment you cross me its OVA.. DOLLY HOUSE MASH UP.. Then you see the other side of the twin.. the side that still carries that razor in her mouth or in her weave that isn’t afraid to roll up and slice you down the side of your face cause you talked crazy to me or my family.. its the mix of the caribbean hot head meet the BK bully BUT I stay on my game a hustler in every sense of the word and will provide the hookup to all in my circle without hesitation.. I’m a born caregiver/nurturer
notice the geminis have the most to say! LMAO!! I’m skerred of you 1969..what sparked this post?? I hope nobody is about to get the beat down!
…i’m a gemini too…crazy!!! i can be sugary sweet one minute then cut you with a razor the next..but then i’m back to sugary sweet
pyscho I tell ya…and i agree with MizJJ…we can see both sides of every story we can agree with everybody and disagree about everything
i can see the bright side and the darkside…
If I only show you my good, happy, side then you are not a friend..I don’t openly show my bad days or cry out in the open..when I feeling mean spirited I retreat into myself, I run and hide til the cheerful me comes back….
I get phone calls all the time “are you hiding”..yep..until the ugly subsides lol
from a lurker:
as a fellow cancer i can co-sign on everything you said. reading your post was like looking inside my own brain.
i speak english, want to learn spanish…but just can’t understand drama!!
if you cross me, there will be no slashing of the tires, no keying of the car…but i will just delete you from my mental rolodex.
however, if you stay on my good side, you can count on me forever.
on my bad days, i retreat in my shell and work it out.
when i come out all is good and we can now work on your stuff (i have a little selfish only child in me too!)
I don’t know who I am, but I’m scared of you, heh!
I’m me. I’m loyal and very easy to get along with. I’m not easy to befriend because I’m cynical. I tend to think everyone is always trying to serve bullshyt. I don’t like being crossed and once you have, I tend to cut you loose. No ifs, ands, or butts. Once you gone, you’re gone. Like you I’m allergic to drama and people who dwell in it. Yes, there are people who live in constant drama. I stay far away from those people. Other than that, what you see is what you get. I don’t make pretenses and I don’t sugarcoat. I’m blunt to a fault but I don’t know any other way to come at you.
After reading about you…I’m just a bit scared.
LMAO! I scared everybody.
Now you know that it takes a lot to get me to that point. I am typically fun, and easy going. It’s when I get pushed that I react uh….negatively.
V-I-R-G-O’s rule. I’m still waters that run deep. I’m not the typical Virgo in that I’m always critical, harsh and judgemental toward others. I turn that on myself. I’m an open book, a realist to those close to me. I’m honest–and– loyal to a fault. Cross me once. Shame on you, for you will never meet and have a more caring and genuine friend like me. However, I don’t hold grudges. But, I NEVER forget. I’m an over-analytical observer who keeps lots of her opinions to herself. I like the shadows as opposed to the limelight. I totally adore those I choose (wisely) to call my friend.
Loved this piece, doc sixty-nine!
You really made me think about this who am i business. I feel an unscheduled blog coming on. I feel REALLY bad for whoever got on your bad side!
I am a cancer also. Like Toni, I feel your description of yourself was a description of me.
I am patient. I will give people a rope and even extend it a few times, but when I am done, that’s it, that’s all. I don’t use profanity, so when I’m ripping you a new one, it sounds real nice. Once my words have had time to marinate, the intended will realize how much damage I have done.
I’m soft and cuddly. Warm like a teddy bear.
I’m as nice as folks LET me be. When the gloves come off they are replaced by a taser.
You know who I am 1969..probably one of the few people in blogland that does…I’m glad you’re not a blabber mouth or else I’d be found out..hahahahaha..Um for for real don’tevertell!
Sip….stop playing with the people.
Mr. Slish….your secrets are safe with me.
That’s Cancer, right there!!! Sweet, apple pie, Mom, traditional, blah, blah, blah. But cross us, or one of our family, and it’s GAME OVER!
We try to retreat or sidestep first. Diplomacy is my middle name. But if cornered we come out ‘swanging’ similiar to a real-life crab. Luuv this post!
Cancerians Stand Up! LOL!