I have a problem with teenaged girls dressed like hoochies. There, I said it.
This morning during my commute in, I watched this young lady on the bus. She was sporting a super tight gray jogging suit.
She had both legs on the jogging suit pushed up over her knees. In hot pink, the word DIVA was spread across her behind. She had matching hot pink Reebok classic hightops and a hot pink super low cut tanktop on. The tanktop could barely contain the double d’s spilling out of the top. The hoodie jacket had the string tied at the neck but the zipper was pulled down to her belly button to properly display the cleavage. I didn’t even address the weaved hair down to the small of her back and the makeup all over her face.
If she was on her way to a video shoot…..she was HOT. But this child couldn’t have been more than 15 and she was headed to school.
What parent allows their child out of the house like this? I am all for expressing yourself but dayum. How is a teenaged boy supposed to concentrate with all of those goodies on display in the classroom? What type of attention is this child looking for and worse, attracting? And there were grown men turning heads……GROWN MEN.
What the heck is wrong with us? Have we just said “What the Fudge” and turned our back on the youth? This mess is not cute. It’s not a game. If we are failing them in these formative years……don’t be suprised with the outcome.
If you aren’t teaching your child to respect and cherish their bodies at home and in public…..do you think anyone else will?
How about a lesson on “school appropriate clothing vs. hang out clothing”?
While I was shaking my head at this child, I had a vision…..I wonder what her mama wore today? *sigh*
Oh you know damn well what her mama wore today. Some tight ass jeans with her ass crack showing and love handles oozing out the side, a graphic print t-shirt that says “I’m the shit” and some FMPs. They both looked at each other this morning and said “Grrrrl you wearing that outfit”…….
lmbao@funky! Wooo! It is really really sad because nobody has taken the time to teach this girl her value/her worth. We can’t help what the good Lord gave us but that does not mean we gotta put it all up in the storefront for everybody to see. My heart goes out to her because it’s obvious she is starved for attention (positive or negative) and will seek it by any means necessary. A dayum shame.
Fresh……as soon as I finish my coffee, I am coming over there and whoop your behind. LMAO
Mo…it was such an obvious cry for attention. DIVA across your azz? Is that even necessary? Where do you buy such stuff?
That is happenig in alot of places. SMH. I have seen white girls going off to school with painted on jeans and undies showing. I think some parents just don’t want to cause waves with their teens. Not I, I am not going for my daughter dressed crazy even outside of school. My daughter has to wear a uniform and the sad thing is girls come in with tight khakis on and fitted shirts and some of them are dropped off by their parents. *sighing*
Thanks so much for this post! I spent 30 minutes yesterday at The Limited Too explaining to my 8 year-old it was not appropriate to have “DANCE” (or any other words) plastered on the back of her sweat pants!! She really thought mommy lost her marbles because that’s what the other girls have….. It really does have to start at home!
Nik Luv
Nik Luv….the Limited Too sells thongs for little girls. I was in there with my cousin and couldn’t believe that…LOL
Hmmmmm. My 12 year old knows not to mention anything about clothes with words on the behind! She knows that’s an automatic beat down. That goes for makeup too.
Not that I would ever allow my girls to dress like that, it wouldn’t fly at their school anyway. They have very strict dress code… shirts must be tucked, belts must be worn, no pierced jewelry on boys, etc… My daugher has a black BCBG warm up suit with BCBG across the chest and butt… the outfit is black and so are the embroidered lettering so it doesn’t stand out. Then again, it doesn’t fit like a second skin. LOL I blame the parents! I buy the clothes my kids wear and they know not to even come at me with the foolishness.
Erica…BCBG quality is different from what this youngster had on. CHEAP, ill fitting and SKIN TIGHT and she was a thick girl. With D-I-V-A on her butt. Big difference. LOL
I think there has to be a balance. Children need to be allowed to be young and wear clothing of young people, but at the same time they need boundaries. My mom explained to me what kind of message I was sending when I wore clothes like that. However, sometimes I wanted to dress a little risqué. That is part of growing up and becoming a woman. You test your sex appeal and try to illicit reactions. Those reactions are not always positive, but you learn.
Reebok classics are back???!!!! LOL
Growing up in BK, we didn’t really do risque…(til we went away to college!)
The girls who did dress with advertisement were considered sluts. Which was a big no-no. (Are sluts/video girls the new HS clique?)
Who knows maybe this girl may be really decent, just misguided. All is not lost. Sometimes though, what you see in the streets really makes you forget.
OK.. See I’M DONE.. Fresh done did it!!!
But errr the sad thing is NOBODY told her anything.. her momma was probably dressed just like that OR DIDN’T CARE what she had on.. Sadly enough this is becoming a trend and another way we are failing our youth
Her momma or whoever bought it thinking it was cute.. and I’m sure the quality of it was TRASHY!!! Ugh!
Can we go back to slappin the taste outta kids who even LOOK the wrong way? I mean we turned out fine didn’t we??
@Ms. Lee YES DEY ARE BACK.. MINI ME IS BEGGIN ME TO BUY HER SOME
I got this quote in my inbox today:
All children wear the sign: “I want to be important NOW.”
Many of our juvenile delinquency problems arise
because nobody reads the sign.
Dan Pursuit
HOT PINK NEON REEBOK CLASSICS WITH RAINBOW STRIPED LACES.
The poor child’s mama is most likely as lost as she is. The great tragedy is that there are hordes of in appropriately dressed girls just like her. I’m a firm believer in school uniforms for this exact reason.
@Sissy: I agree. Yet these kids still find a way. I saw this one girl her khakis were so tight a thought could not fit in her back pocket. LOL. SMH.
LMAO @ Shai!
1969, I kid you not. On the bus, I see how the boys still try to sag or the girls try tight uniform pants and shirts. I know my daughter has a fit at how I buy her uniform pants loose for shrinkage and to let her body breathe. LOL. SMH.
For real though…I have to laugh because I went to Catholic School. They used to measure our skirt length EVERY morning. We were notorious for trying to roll those skirts up
But I never had my chi chi’s hanging out and DIVA on my behind
LOL. I used to see the girls who were in Catholic school roll their waists up once they left school grounds. LOL.
I see it all day long. If I have a daughter she’s going to hate me…I’m considering buying burlap sacks to wrap her body in…until she’s legally old enough to stop me…and can buy her own clothes.
Dang!!! 1969 – you must be gettin’ old!!! All of ya’ll sound like a bunch of old ladies sittin’ on the stoop in front of my building on a warm summer afternoon! For some reason when ya’ll hit a certain age (usually about 33) ya’ll start to get appalled by the attire of our younger generation. (maybe because you’ve passed your prime and wish you could wear what they are wearing?) Hmm, makes no sense to me ’cause YOU WERE ROCKIN’ THE SAME GHETTO-AZZ STUFF WHEN YOU WERE IN HIGH SCHOOL! The only difference is the material. Case in point – I know all of ya’ll had a pair of SUPER DUPER TIGHT Calvin Klein, Sergio Valente or Gloria Vanderbuilt jeans. You paired the jeans with a leotard top (with no bra of course!) in some ridiculous neon shade and a pair of strappy sandals to complete the look. I have HUNDREDS of pictures of ya’ll wearing BIKER SHORTS with matchin’ TANK TOPS and NO BRASSIERES! If you deny that you didn’t have at least one of the outfits (if not both) then you are just lying to yourselves! And regarding the generation before us being any better? Fuhgedaboudit – Just check out any photos of your mom or aunts from the late ’60s and early ’70s and I GUARANTEE YOU that you will find a whole bunch of HOT PANTS and (the ultimate) TUBE TOPS! Hey – remember in the 90′s hot pants made a come back? – but this time around we called them POOM POOM SHORTS! I bet some of ya’ll still have a pair of ‘em deep in your closet right now! So what’s the difference between a 15 year old girl today wearing a tight sweatsuit and a 15 year old girl back in the day wearing biker shorts & matching tank top? Or a girl in the 70s wearing hot pants/poom poom shorts w/ a tube top? The material – that’s it! just the material. Get over it you hypocrites!!!
“DIVA” is just her new tattoo. She is still underage and they won’t actually place it on her body without her mother’s permisson. She is wearing it on her clothing until she reaches body piercing/tattooing age. You did say the pants were skin tight? DIVA is just the tattoo showing through. Let’s pray. And I’m not a fan of the words sprawled across my ass. I save my “I Love Pink” Victoria’s Secret sweats for ’round the house. No need for oogling haters. LOL!
It is sad that she thought that outfit was ok but to a certain extent she doesn’t know any better. I blame her caregiver or lack thereof. I know a little girl (5 or 6 years old) who has skin tight Baby Phat (or one of those brands) jeans and she had to take her clothes off to get measured for a cheerleading uniform. Well she takes off the jeans and she has on no panties–did she “know” she wasn’t supposed to have a panty line?
I just remember when I was younger and my mother did not allow me to have midriff showing b/c that is not what a young lady does. At the time I was mad but I really appreciate her for keeping me in line. Because of her I know what is appropriate for all occasions.
i can’t stand funky!! these outfits and weaves make me so weary. for real.
The Contration? Is that a word? LOL
Look here, we all wore the style of the day. That’s not my argument.
Someone else could have had on the same outfit (see Lil Mama who typically wears the same sweat outfits) and it doesn’t look STANK.
Two people can wear the exact same thing….one can look appropriate and one will look like a HOT MESS. Everything is NOT for everybody. Capish?
Most teenaged girls can wear a pair of Sweats and be cute. Hell, they make that stuff for teenagers. However, when one is built with extra cleavage and extra junk in the trunk, you need to recognize that some things may not flatter your curvyness. The same way that a woman with no behind need not ever wear a pair of Applebottoms.
What particularly irked me was that this was a young girl, not a college student or a 17, 18 year old……. who was on her way to SCHOOL. If she is going to a club….that’s cool. It is NOT cool at SCHOOL. PERIOD. That ish is not appropriate.
As for this statement :”For some reason when ya’ll hit a certain age (usually about 33) ya’ll start to get appalled by the attire of our younger generation. (maybe because you’ve passed your prime and wish you could wear what they are wearing?”
If you knew me in person, you would know that not only could I rock a pair of short shorts right now as a 38 year old mother of two, I would probably look better in em than most 15 year olds. However, I would not have them on while going to school. CLASS BEFORE ASS.
If you feel like exposed breasts are okay in Chem class….do you. If that makes me an old fogey….someone call AARP.
Oh…and welcome to my blog.
“The Contratian”
Paw, who dis? Who dis Paw?
Creole….You are a damn fool….LMAO
Hell…I forgot to say what I was gonna say trying to figure out what new person would DARE try and roll up outta nowhere like they put in on this.
N E WAY!
I see them and I shake my head every time. I wish I could say something but I know I’d end up having to fight someone and I ain’t trying to get sued. It’s a mess is what it is. A downright mess.
Me thinks sometimes new posters get so caught up in the topic that they “forget” to introduce themselves before they jump in full swing in the debate. It’s okay…..I know some of these blogs make me want to JUMP IN AND CUSS FOLKS OUT too.
However, I like to at least intro myself and let you know who I am before I tell you your opinion is garbage.
LMAO@funky!..and Creole! LOL
I don’t like seeing young girls dress like this either, and I’m pretty sure her mother doesn’t care or else she wouldn’t have bought her the clothes; or allowed her to wear them if someone else did. I’m conscious about what my niece wears. I believe the clothes she wear are too tight for her. She’s only 11 and she has a hind parts on her! She also has a lil pouch of a stomach. Wearing tight jeans/shorts is not only inappropriate in my eyes, but it’s not flattering to her body either. I stress this to here, as well as the importance of respecting her body. If I buy her clothes, she will get the correct sizes. The others are what her mother buys her. Apparently she doesn’t see anything wrong with it or else she wouldn’t let her dress like that; at least, that’s how I see it. I don’t know; maybe she can’t afford to buy her more clothes, but hell; all she has to do is let me know and we can definitely do some shopping! I don’t want her getting the wrong type of attention, so I’ll continue to give my 2 cents until I see some results!
Whenever I see one of those girls, I can’t help to think about Jill Scott’s “The Thickness”… on how young girls are misguided into believing the hype and then emulating behaviors they see on tv.
If only they knew that what they are rushing to (adulthood) is not all that it’s cracked up to be!!
As a young girl I had almost D cup breasts before I was 13 years old, which meant that when I tried to wear clothing that most girl’s my age tried to wear I looked like I was selling cleavage. Now luckily for me I was meat and bones every where else, so I was just top heavy and lanky, but these girls today raised on fast food and hamburgers filled with hormones don’t stand a chance. They are children, with minds that aren’t fully developed, making childish decisions but looking like grown women.
The media sexualizes our young women and has done so since the first screening of Lolita, who was played by one of my best friend’s mother. Lanky 13 year olds grace the cover of magazines and are spread out in Dolce & Gabana ad’s in sometimes just their undies.
It’s a sad state of affairs, our children have long since been sold up the river, and dirty old men aren’t the only vultures, adult clothing companies want our money to clothe our kids!
OMG!! I didn’t even *think* about what her mama would have on!!
This is just a shame! If it was one my girls in my girl group she would have had some words of wisdom coming from my way!
Ms. 1969, did anyone mention the nasty jailhouse tattoos that these young girls are getting? Very, very distasteful.
ok wth on contri whoever????? i’m 25 and have felt like this since i was watching other people do it. sign me up for aarp, too. i already read more so may as well round it out. come on! have some sense of decorum. what’s really amazing is the people who wear words across their butts and get mad when someone comments on it. *face.*