One of the joys of getting older is that you acquire the right to expound on several topics simply because you have “lived”. With age comes wisdom. I find that people now come to me and expect enlightened answers on various topics. Here are the top three….
Once you have a child and you live to see them through the first five years of their life without going to jail, folks tend to gravitate toward you and ask you questions.
The other day, I was out with both Tali’s at the playground. This pregnant woman comes up to me and starts asking me where I send my kids to daycare because they are so “well-spoken and well-behaved”. While I told her about their school (because I love their school), I didn’t have the time to explain to her that it’s not just the school…..my kids are well spoken and well behaved because they learned that in their house. I wanted to tell her that it takes work and that her road was just beginning. Your children are a reflection of you and their environment. It’s that simple. When folks have bad azz kids and they don’t know why….ahem….hold up a mirror. LOL
I am always getting questions about “how do you make it work”….and “you guys seem so happy and you have such a beautiful family”. Rule number one with marriage….couples always look happy when they are out but nobody knows what goes on in their home. Everyone has rough spots and trouble. Couples fight, they argue, they disagree. No one has a perfect marriage.
Stop looking at other people and figure out what is not working in YOUR house.
Every situation is unique. Don’t compare your husband to my husband. Work on you and yours. AND STOP LETTING EVERYONE IN YOUR BUSINESS. Whew.
Nothing in life is easy. You walk the road and sometimes it’s smooth, sometimes it’s long, sometimes it’s rocky and bumpy. You just work on moving forward and paving the road together. He has to want it as much as you do. Don’t worry about the other cars on the road. Drive yours to the best of your ability.
If a man wants to be with you, he will act like it.
That’s really all you ladies need to know. Commit that to memory. If you are spending more time trying to figure him out than enjoying the relationship…..kick him to the curb.