I am feeling better today. Thanks to everyone for the love and support. I do appreciate all the prayers and well wishes. I will transfer all of them to my mom!!!!
On Saturday, I will be celebrating 6 years of marriage. SIX FREAKIN’ YEARS!!!!!!! Unbelievable.
Now I will tell you all that I have a nice home, two beautiful children and a good husband. I know that I am blessed beyond belief. BUT….marriage is not for the faint of heart. An African (thanks for the new word blog fam) will test every last nerve that you have.
It takes major work. If the two people involved aren’t committed, it won’t work. I can honestly say that we had one year where I really was ready to just walk away. I was tired of giving of myself and getting nothing in return. I am sure he was feeling the same way. We had hit a crossroads, a make it or break it point. I am sure that all couples get there. It takes commitment to the marriage to work through the issues. To see the bigger picture…family, children, investments, etc.
It’s so much easier to just say “F*ck it” and walk away. The true strength is to find a way to work problems out.
Many people think the problems stem from infidelity….the real issues are the day to day issues. Money, the kids, time, respect, kindness. Hell, I could probably handle cheating. It’s the lack of effort that gets on my nerves.
I think when folks get married they stop treating each other like they did when they were dating. That’s fine. But every once in a while….make an effort for your partner. Suprise them Remind them you do love them….for no reason.
My hubby doesn’t read this blog. He probably doesn’t know what a Blog is unless it involves sports or porn. LOL
I can’t say he’s perfect. I know I’m not. But I can say Happy Anniversary.